Eight Days in a Binding Contract

About two months later, I flew a one-stop from Charlotte through Dallas to San Diego. In my luggage was a selection of toys and restraints from my collection that were favorites of mine. While waiting for my luggage at Baggage Claim I slipped into the restroom and affixed a plastic encasing chastity device around my privates, locking it in place. I thought my new master would want me delivered this way. He picked me up in his Jeep at Arrivals Pickup, there we gave each other an old friend’s hug, then I handed him the key to my chastity lock without explanation asking him to please not lose it, and we headed to his home. The ride was pleasant, but I could tell he was already stepping into his role as his voice was firmer than his usual jovial tone and he certainly didn’t help me with putting my luggage in the car. Maybe he was just a little apprehensive of this new role to play.

We arrived at his abode, I brought my bags into the house, and he immediately directed me to his kitchen table.  There sat two copies of the ‘Servitude Contract” and a pen. “Sit” I was directed.  Sir Michael then read aloud the contract to me, line by line. Here is the contract, note, it’s a long read:

A Servitude Contract

Enter into between

Sir Master Michael

Dominant

&

His Bitch, Bobbie

Submissive

on this Friday, May 12, 2023

THE PARTIES AGREE AS FOLLOWS

1 The following are the terms of a binding contract between the Dominant and the Submissive. It further serves as an agreement between the Dominant, the Submissive, and any individuals the Dominant may invite to participate in the activities covered by this document.

FUNDAMENTAL TERMS

2 The fundamental purpose of this contract is to allow the Submissive to explore his sensuality, his bondage fetish, and his limits safely, with due respect and regard for his needs, his limits, and his well-being.

3 The Dominant and the Submissive agree and acknowledge that all that occurs under the terms of this contract will be consensual, confidential, and subject to the agreed limits and safety procedures set out in this contract. Additional limits and safety procedures may be agreed later in writing.

4 The Dominant and the Submissive (and any other participants) each warrant that they do not suffer from any sexual diseases, serious infectious, or life-threatening illnesses, including but not limited to HIV (unless maintaining a medication regiment and testing indicates ‘undetectable’), herpes, and hepatitis. If during the Term (as defined below) or any extended term of this contract either party should be diagnosed with or become aware of any such illness, that individual undertakes to inform the other immediately and in any event prior to any form of physical contact between the parties.

5 Adherence to the above warranties, agreements, and undertakings (and any additional limits and safety procedures agreed under Clause 3 above) are fundamental to this contract. Any breach shall render it void with immediate effect and each party agrees to be fully responsible to the other for the consequence of any breach.

6 Everything in this contract must be read and interpreted in the light of the fundamental purpose and the fundamental terms set out in Clauses 2-5 above.

ROLES

7 The Dominant shall take responsibility for and the execution of the well-being and the proper training, guidance, restraint, and discipline of the Submissive. He shall decide the nature of such training, guidance, restraint, and discipline and the time and place of its administration, subject to agreed terms, limitations, and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under Clause 3 above.

8 If at any time the Dominant should fail to keep to the agreed terms, limitations, and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under Clause 3 above, the Submissive is entitled to terminate this contract forthwith and to leave the service of the Dominant without notice.

9 Subject to that proviso and to Clauses 2-5 above, the Submissive is to serve and obey the Dominant in all things. Subject to the agreed terms, limitations, and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under Clause 3 above, he shall without query or hesitation provide the Dominant such pleasure as Dominant may require and he shall accept without query or hesitation his training, guidance, restraint, and discipline in whatever form it may take.

COMMENCEMENT AND TERM

10 The Dominant and Submissive enter into this contract on the Commencement Date fully aware of its nature and undertake to abide by its conditions without exception.

11 This contract shall be effective from Friday, May 12, 2023 to Saturday, May 20, 2023. On the expiry of the Term the parties shall discuss whether this contract and the arrangements they have made under this contract are satisfactory and whether the needs of each party have been met. Either party may propose the extension of this contract subject to adjustments to its terms or to the arrangements they have made under it. In the absence of agreement to such extension this contract shall terminate, and both parties shall be free to resume their lives separately.

AVAILABILITY

12 The Submissive and Dominant will make themselves available as much as possible during the term of this contract, both days and nights. The Submissive understands that the Dominant will attend to his business as a priority and the Submissive will wait patiently for the completion of same, in bondage and hidden if that is the pleasure or need of the Dominant.

13 The Dominant reserves the right to dismiss the Submissive from his service at any time and for any reason. The Submissive may request his release at any time, such request to be granted at the discretion of the Dominant subject only to the Submissive’s rights under Clauses 2-5 and 8 above.

LOCATION

14 The Dominant and Submissive will make themselves available during the contract term at locations to be determined by the Dominant. It is likely that the predominant location to be used will be the Dominant’s abode, specifically his dungeon, bedroom, bathroom, and outside atrium. At the Dominant’s discretion and desire, addition locations may be utilized.

SERVICE PROVISIONS

15 The following service provisions have been discussed and agreed and will be adhered to by both parties during the Term. Both parties accept that certain matters may arise that are not covered by the terms of this contract or the service provisions, or that certain matters may be renegotiated. In such circumstances, further clauses may be proposed by way of amendment. Any further clauses or amendments must be agreed, documented, and signed by both parties and shall be subject to the fundamental terms set out under Clauses 2-5 above.

DOMINANT

15.1 The Dominant shall always make the Submissive’s health and safety a priority. The Dominant shall not at any time require, request, allow, or demand the Submissive to participate at the hands of the Dominant or others in the activities detailed in Appendix 2 ‘HARD LIMITS’ or in any act that either party deems to be unsafe. The Dominant will not undertake or permit to be undertaken any action which could cause serious injury or any risk to the Submissive’s life. The remaining subclauses of Clause 15 are to be read subject to this proviso and to the fundamental matters agreed in Clauses 2-5 above.

15.2 The Dominant accepts the Submissive as his to own, control, dominate, restrain, bind, and discipline during the Term. The Dominant may use the Submissive’s body at any time during the Allotted Times or any agreed additional times in any manner he deems fit, sexually, or otherwise.

15.3 The Dominant shall provide the Submissive with all necessary training and guidance in how to properly serve the Dominant. Early in the term, the Dominant will use care when inserting toys or body parts into the Submissive’s oral cavity as the Submissive is not yet skilled in deep throating and needs to be trained how to control the gag reflex, Also, the Dominant will use care when inserting toys or body parts anally as the Submissive has limited experience in anal play and needs training to adjust to larger penetrations.

15.4 The Dominant shall maintain a stable and safe environment in which the Submissive may perform his duties in service of the Dominant.

15.5 The Dominant may discipline the Submissive as necessary to ensure the Submissive fully appreciates his role of subservience to the Dominant and to discourage unacceptable conduct. The Dominant may flog or spank or otherwise torture the Submissive as he sees fit, for purposes of discipline, for his own personal enjoyment, or for any other reason, which he is not obliged to provide. The Dominant may delay the application of discipline for any misdeeds, errors, or conduct that occurs while the Submissive is working on household projects, out in public, on walks or other places/events until the Submissive has returned to a bondage setting, It is at the sole discretion of the Dominant if he wishes to disclose the reason for the discipline and the Submissive shall not question what the Dominant determines is a breach of conduct. 

15.6 In training and in the administration of discipline the Dominant shall ensure that no permanent marks are made upon the Submissive’s body, nor any injuries incurred that may require medical attention.

15.7 In training and in the administration of pleasure or discipline the Dominant shall ensure that the discipline and the instruments used for the purposes of pleasure or discipline are safe, clean (sterile where appropriate), shall not be used in such way as to cause serious harm, and shall not in any way exceed the limits defined and detailed in this contract.

15.8 In case of illness or injury the Dominant shall care for the Submissive, seeing to his health and safety, encouraging and, when necessary, ordering medical attention when it is judged necessary by the Dominant. The Submissive will maintain adequate health insurance and be liable for any medical expenses incurred. The Submissive agrees he will seek no restitution from the Dominant should injury to his person or damage to his property occur.

15.9 The Dominant shall maintain his own good health and seek medical attention, when necessary, in order to maintain a risk-free environment.

15.10 The Dominant shall not loan his Submissive to another Dominant outside of his direct control. The Dominant may direct the Submissive while under his supervision to service or be sexually used by another Dominant or other invited guest(s)/friend(s) of the Dominant’s choosing within the limits of Appendix 2 and the safety/health edicts of this document. The Submissive shall treat any invited guest in the same manner he is required to serve the Dominant; obeying any order, performing every task, and accepting any discipline or torture the guest wishes to deliver and shall do so without hesitation or argument as long as these actions pleases the Dominant. The Submissive will be bound/restrained/blindfolded during these encounters.

15.11 The Dominant may restrain, bind, tether, handcuff, mummify, blindfold, gag, etc. the Submissive at any time during the term of this agreement for any reason (and is expected to do so) and for extended periods of time including overnight sleep times, giving due regard to the health and safety of the Submissive, and using appropriate means, methods and equipment considering the activities planned and the duration expected for the particular session or event. When the Dominant is placing the Submissive in longer term bondage sessions, he will consider bondage methods and positions that promote and support the endurance the session may require.

15.12 The Dominant may from time to time, require the Submissive to assist in affixing, arranging, positioning, buckling, securing, tying, etc. the restraint equipment while placing the Submissive into physical bondage. At his sole discretion, the Dominant may solicit the Submissive’s thoughts as to how best to apply restraints to achieve secure, tight, effective, safe, and bearable arrangements for the activities planned, if any, by the Dominant. The Submissive shall provide such information in the spirit of achieving the Dominant’s goals and pleasures and not to reduce the Submissive’s burden, although both results may be achieved. The Submissive is obligated to inform the Dominant if the restraints applied are loose, escapable, ineffective, or otherwise unsuitable for the intended use or session. The Submissive shall not resist binds being applied and will remain passive till complete. During sessions, the Submissive will use his safe words to initiate bondage adjustment or relief that may become necessary.

15.13 The Dominant and the Submissive both recognize and accept that, while highly unlikely, an emergency could occur while the Submissive is bound. To that end, when the Submissive is bound with ropes, leather, wire, zip ties or plastic shrink wrap the Dominant will provide in close proximately suitable cutting tools (safety scissors, knives, razor knives, wire nippers, etc.) should rapid release become necessary. It is acknowledged that keyed, combination, time release, and electromagnetic locking devices can be used safely in strict bondage play and therefore are permitted and preferred when using leather or metal cuffs or chains in securing the submissive. Two keys for each keyed locking device will be readily available to the Dominant. If the keyed locks used are not all keyed the same, then the keys and locks will be clearly marked as sets. The unique keys for handcuffs, irons, and leather straps shall be kept readily accessible when these devices are used.  If combination locks are used, the combination shall be written down and placed where it is readily available.  Electromagnetic lock shall fail open when electricity is shut off. A suitable cutting tool will be available to cut time release locks if used.

15.14 Typically, in most strict bondage sessions the Dominant will be in proximity of the Submissive. It is accepted that this will not always be possible, nor necessary, or required; however, at a minimum, the Dominant will remain in the residence where the submissive is restrained, preferably within earshot. The Dominant will remain within general view of the Submissive if he is tightly gagged. The Dominant need not sleep in the same room with a sleeping bound Submissive if the Submissive is not secured in place, is mobile, has sight and can call out. The Dominant will not leave the household when the Submissive is bound unless the Submissive’s bonds do not restrict his breathing or sight and are such that he is mobile, allowing for easily self-escape of the premises or an area of refuge in an emergency.

15.15 The Dominant will ensure that all equipment used for the purposes of training, pleasure and discipline shall be maintained in a clean, hygienic, and safe state at all times. The Dominant will assure that an ample supply of quality condoms and chlorine wipes are available for the duration of the contract term. The Submissive shall provide reimbursement for the expenses incurred.

SUBMISSIVE

15.15The Submissive accepts the Dominant as his master, with the understanding that he is now the property of the Dominant, to be dealt with as the Dominant pleases during the Term generally, but specifically during the Bondage/Pleasure/Play Times and any additionally agreed allotted times. The Submissive will do his best to learn quickly the methods and techniques needed to handle the sexual needs and desires of the Dominant. The Submissive understands there will likely be pain in accommodating the large member and/or toys of the Dominant and is expected to bear them without complaint.

15.16 The Submissive shall obey the rules (“the Rules”) set out in Appendix 1 to this agreement. The Dominant shall also follow the guidelines of the rules (“the Rules”) set out in Appendix 1 to this agreement as they apply to him.

15.17 The Submissive shall serve the Dominant in any way the Dominant sees fit and shall endeavor to always please the Dominant to the best of his ability. The Submissive shall cater to a wide range of interests and needs of the Dominant from his sexual stimulation and gratification to completing special household maintenance, cleaning and/or improvement projects at the Dominant’s home.

15.18 The Submissive agrees to service or be sexually used by any person or persons of the Dominant’s choosing. Such encounters may include participation of multiple people at a time if that so pleases the Dominant. The Submissive will be bound, restrained and blindfolded during these encounters and this is by the Submissive’s expressed request and consent. The Submissive explicitly grants his permission to be sexually used and abused by those individuals invited by the Dominant to take part in the activities with the Submissive, and furthermore, the Submissive grants his permission for those individual to complete such acts on the Submissive while the Submissive is bound, restrained and/or blindfolded. Furthermore, the Submissive acknowledges that under these bondage conditions he may not be aware that he is about to be used by others and grants them permission to proceed with their engagement with the Submissive, whatever it may be, without notification. The participants shall abide by the limits of Appendix 2 and the safety/health edicts of this document. Permission is also granted to these participants to engage with the Submissive in any of the activities listed in the Appendix 2 Acceptable Activities/Soft Limits list. The identities of the individuals engaging with the Submissive need not be revealed to him. The Dominant will retain the knowledge of who participated if later health notifications need to be made. The participants will not reveal to others the identity of the Submissive.

15.19 The Submissive shall take all measures necessary to maintain his good health and although not expected shall request or seek medical attention whenever it is needed, keeping the Dominant informed at all times of any health issues should they arise.

15.20 Prophylactic coverings (condoms) shall be worn by all parties when anal or oral penetration activities occur to the Submissive or by the Submissive to assure safety and long-term health of all parties involved unless the individuals have been tested within the past 90 days by a certified physician or clinic and are certified disease free and/or if HIV positive, testing indicates HIV ‘undetectable’ and they are maintaining their medication regiment. If guests and the Dominant have engaged in protected oral or anal relations with each other due to unknown health statis, they shall don new clean condoms before sexually interacting with the Submissive. If the Dominant requires the Submissive to finger and play with his guest’s anal cavities who are not medically cleared, then the Submissive shall wear surgical gloves while performing the commanded service.

15.21 The Submissive shall accept without question any and all disciplinary actions deemed necessary by the Dominant and remember his status and role in regard to the Dominant at all times.

15.22 The Dominant may, at times, direct the Submissive not to touch or pleasure himself sexually without permission from the Dominant. The Submissive, at times, may be required to wear a chastity device to deny self-pleasure when alone, out and about or sleeping.

15.23 The Submissive shall submit to any sexual activity demanded by the Dominant and shall do so without hesitation or argument.

15.24 The Submissive shall accept floggings, spankings, paddlings, nipple clamps, Wattenberg pinwheels, waterboarding or any other discipline/tortures the Dominant should decide to administer, without hesitation, inquiry, or complaint.

15.25 The Submissive shall always conduct himself in a respectful manner to the Dominant and shall address him only as the Dominant may direct.

ACTIVITIES

16 The Submissive shall not participate in activities or any sexual acts that either party deems to be unsafe or any activities detailed in Appendix 2 as Hard Limits.

17 A list of activities is provided in Appendix 2 that are suitable, not suitable, or not desired to be performed on and with the Submissive.

18 Addition activities can be added to the Appendix 2 Suitable list when the Dominant and/or Submissive have new desires conceived after the Term has commenced and are agreed to by both the Dominant and the Submissive. They will be added as an amendment to this document and can be implemented during the contract term. Additional activities can also be considered if there are special requests or desires offered by the Dominant’s invited guests. All guest’s new activity requests require agreement by both the Dominant and Submissive. If a Dominant’s or guest’s request is submitted after the Submissive is already in bondage, the Submissive affirmative agreement can be verbal but only if it was not coerced by torture and does not currently appear on the Hard Limits list. The Submissive’s vote will require these words clearly stated: “Green, Yes the Submissive agrees, Green” or “Yellow, No, the Submissive does not agree, Yellow”. Note that it is reasonable for the Dominant to punish the Submissive for not having the forethought to have a guest’s need or desire already included in the Appendix 2 lists and this punishment is independent and mutually exclusive to an affirmative or negative vote by the Submissive.

SAFEWORDS

18 The Dominant and the Submissive recognize that the Dominant may make demands of the Submissive that cannot be met without incurring physical, mental, emotional, or other harm or pain at the time the demands are made to the Submissive. In such circumstances related to this, the Submissive may make use of a safe word. Three safe words will be invoked depending on the severity of the demands or situation occurring.

19 The Safe word “Yellow” will be used to bring to the attention of the Dominant that the Submissive is close to his limit of endurance for the action(s) being administered and needs the Dominant to ease up, alter, and/or stop the specific activity, but not end the session or release the Submissive from his bondage. It also can be used when the Submissive needs adjustment to his restraints due to cramping or other restraint issues. It is used if the Dominant unknowingly or deliberately starts an activity that is on the Hard Limits list or is deemed unsafe before a red safe word must be executed ruining the scene. As the Dominant explores and tests the Submissive’s tolerance limits, he may receive multiple yellow call outs during a session which should be expected, respected, and actions modified as needed to address each individual call; however, these breaks in action are not a reflection of the Dominant’s performance or plan and the session should continue to its end. (Note: It would be considered ‘bad form’ to punish the Submissive for using his yellow safe word, unless doing so brings pleasure to the Dominant)

20 The Safe word “Red” will be used to bring to the attention of the Dominant that the Submissive cannot tolerate any further demands or stresses or is having a medical emergency. When this word is said, the Dominant’s action will cease completely with immediate effect. The Dominant will without hesitation quickly assess the situation to determine if the Submissive must be immediately released from his bondage and rendered aid if necessary or simply cease the activity. If invoking a Red condition ends the scene, it does not end the contract term. After a recovery period satisfactory to the Submissive, he will request the Dominant to reengage in the scene or start a new one or indicate he can no longer continue. 

21 The Safe word “Green” will be used if a positive response is warranted when the Dominant questions the Submissive as to his current pleasure/pain level/general well-being or when he wants to know if the action being administer is desired and should continue (if not, the yellow or red safe words should be invoked if fitting). The Submissive is not permitted to verbalize with other words any enjoyment or discomfort of the activity taking place unless it is a follow-up to a safe word call out to which the Dominant is seeking additional information or clarification. (Note punishment should be administered by the Dominant if this speaking out of turn rule is not followed.) During a rigorous session, the Submissive may uncontrollably uttered cries of ecstasy or pain and have body reactions or movements; sometimes violent and loud, others more subtle; regardless, the Dominant should continue on unless the Submissive calls out his safe words. (Note that failing to control his pain or pleasure outbursts is a punishable offence unless permission was granted to do so.)

CONCLUSION

22 We the undersigned have read and understood fully the provisions of this contract. We freely accept the terms of this contract and have acknowledged this by our signatures below.

The Dominant:

The Submissive:

APPENDIX 1

ADDITIONAL RULES; TERMS AND CONDITIONS

Obedience:

The Dominant and the Submissive shall cue each other for the beginning of roleplay by using their designated role names as chosen by the Dominant. During these roleplays, the Submissive will obey any instructions given by the Dominant immediately without hesitation or reservation and in an expeditious manner. The Submissive will agree to any sexual activity deemed fit and pleasurable by the Dominant excepting those activities that are outlined in the hard limits (Appendix 2). He will do so eagerly and without hesitation.

Sleep:

The Submissive shall sleep where, when and on whatever the Dominant so desires. The Submissive will remain lightly bound and in a chastity device while sleeping. The Submissive will sleep naked (unless otherwise commanded by the Dominant) but will be permitted a blanket/sheet and pillow unless the Dominant is punishing the Submissive or otherwise it brings pleasures to the Dominant to deny bedding for the evening. Sleep deprivation is permitted as an activity but must be discontinued if the Submissive is showing signs of stress. The Submissive falling asleep at any time without permission is cause for discipline as is snoring that interrupts the Dominant’s sleep and may be implemented immediately.

Food

The Dominant may withhold food as punishment but shall not take this to an extent where a long-term denial threatens the health of the Submissive.  Water should never be restricted and consuming it should be encouraged. The Submissive’s own urine can be supplemented for water to achieve hydration as can his cum be served as a nutritional supplement. The Submissive will not be forced to consume anything that will cause him to vomit or cause diarrhea. During the term, the parties may take trips to restaurants or shop for food. While on these (or any) excursions the Submissive may be required to wear a chastity device. The Dominant may also require the Submissive to wear an inserted butt plug. These devices serve as a reminder while out as to the Submissive’s servitude to the Dominant.

Clothes:

During roleplay the Submissive will wear clothing only approved by the Dominant which in most cases will be nothing at all, i.e. Submissive will be naked for most sessions. The Submissive shall wear adornments or special clothing the Dominant shall require, in the presence of the Dominant and at any other time the Dominant deems fit. When in public, common areas of the Household, or outside yards, the Dominant will decide what clothes, if any, the Submissive shall wear and if the Submissive shall wear undergarments and/or devices/equipment.

Exercise/Weight:

The Submissive, before the term begins shall exercise in a manner necessary to maintain and build his level of fitness essential to participate and sustain in the sexual and bondage activities of the Dominant’s choosing. During the Term as part of the Submissive’s morning routine, he shall complete a stretching/exercise regimen so that he will be limber and flexible when he is bound. He shall complete the exercises naked as to provide sight pleasure to the Dominant. The Dominant prefers a trim Submissive; therefore, the Submissive should arrive for the Term weighing no more than 180 pounds.  For each pound over 180 the Dominant will administer ten strikes of his choosing to the Submissive.

Personal Hygiene:

The Submissive will keep himself clean (inside and out), teeth brushed, and face shaved at all times during the term. The Dominant will determine the thoroughness, timing, frequency, method, and equipment to be used for enemas and douche applications he deems necessary for the personal hygiene upkeep of the Submissive and planned activities. (Note: The Dominant may also use enemas/douche for training and torture purposes via an increased cleansing frequency, intensity or duration, modified temperature and/or requiring sustained retention. Shower nozzles or douche bags may be used.)

Personal Safety:

The Dominate and Submissive both understand that the Submissive’s servitude and bondage can be inherently dangerous. The Submissive knowingly accepts this risk. The Submissive also acknowledges that the risk is part of the sexual excitement that he desires from this fetish. The Dominant will consider the Submissive’s well-being while delivering to the best of his abilities the wishes and fantasies of the Submissive. It is anticipated that during the term the Dominant, the Submissive and any potential guests of the Dominant will be disease free and/or HIV ‘undetectable’. If there is risk, doubt or no recent testing, then the Dominant and his guests shall abide by the following: (1) Prophylactics (condoms) shall be properly worn by the Dominant whenever he inserts his member or toy into the Submissive’s mouth or anus. (2) Likewise, any guests of the Dominant who elects to penetrate the Submissive orally or anally must wear a condom. (3) The Dominant shall assure that a condom is properly placed on the Submissive should the Dominant elect to have the Submissive’s member inserted anally or orally into others. (4) Kissing, licking or any other action that can transfer saliva or other body fluids to the Submissive is prohibited. (5) The Dominant or his guests may only cum in the Submissive’s oral or anal cavities if they are fully protected and contained by a quality condom. (6) Participants shall not openly cum or urinate in/on/near the Submissive’s eyes, nose, open wounds, penis or anal port. Scat activities are not permitted. Bloodletting, cutting, piercing, needle play, tattooing and like activities are not permitted.

Personal Qualities:

The Dominant may enter into sexual or business relations with anyone at any time including during the term of this agreement. Such sexual/business relations may occur in or outside the presence of either party, at any location, at any time. Sexual/business relations shall be conducted in a manner that shall not expose risk to the health and safety of the Submissive. The Submissive must remain chaste to the Dominant (and his guests by the Dominates command) during the Term.

The Dominant and the Submissive recognize that this platonic relationship is unique to them. It is further recognized that the sexual activities and fantasies that may occur during the term of this agreement shall be free from romantic entanglements.

Communication/confidentiality: The Dominant, the Submissive, nor any other parties shall post the names of any participants, nor post any written descriptions or images/videos on any social media platforms of the activities that occurred during the term event without the express combined permission of the Dominant and the Submissive. They will not share details with any other outside parties any activities that occurred that would identify the Submissive. If the Dominant includes others in the sessions, these individuals are also bound to confidentiality of their activities with the Submissive.

Hosting:  When the Dominant entertains invited guests in his home, it is proper and right to share his good fortune and pleasures of owning a bound Submissive with them. Likewise, it would be proper and customary to serve his guests beverages, food, etc. during their visit. The Submissive shall cover the costs of the Dominant being a good host and other like expenses.

Appendix 2

BDSM Activities

Activities acceptable and/or desired by the Submissive during the term, aka SOFT LIMITS, listed alphabetically.

The Submissive shall be naked and bound for activities whenever possible. While all listed activities are welcome and wanted and can be selected, those followed by an asterisk indicate this is an activity/position more coveted by the Submissive. Of course, whichever activities/binding positions are selected by the Dominant are of his choice and intended for his pleasure and amusement and that of his guests. All listed bound positions can be combined with sexual or torture/discipline activities or the Submissive can be left bound with no active attention so he may suffer in bondage solitude while contemplating his current servitude and life. Such idle bondage periods allow the Dominant time to amuse and excite himself or tend to personal needs/work/hobbies as Dominant cannot and should not be expected to give 100% of his attention to the lowly Submissive.

[Code: ‘*’ coveted by sub]

Anal intercourse

Anal or oral assault by mechanical pegging machine

Anal play *

Anal vibration *

Ball binding *

Ball stretching *

Ball torture – mild

Bathroom privileges denial or delay

Bathroom attendant

Blindfolds *

Bound to bed, spread eagle *

Bound to bed, bent over with chest on mattress, feet on floor spread wide

Bound with shrink-wrap *

Bound to pegging/whipping bench *

Bound by one hole prison pole with arms tied behind back

Bound outside, on back, spread eagle *

Bound outside, upright w/hands stretched above, on toes w/feet spread wide

Bound upright with noose/collar with tension rope above, hands tied behind back, feet to spreader bar (NO HANGING)  

Bound to bed or table with feet pulled back to expose butt

Bound to furniture

Bound to sling

Bound to St, Andrews Cross *

Bound to Sybian

Bound crucifixion style

Bound with leather wrist/ankle cuffs for overnight sleeping (various arrangements) *

Bound with leather wrist/ankle cuffs, tethered, awaiting Dominant’s availability *

Bound wrist to ankles  

Bound with spreader bar(s) *

Bound hands in front

Bound hands in back

Bound hands to sides (leather belt/cuffs) transportation/sleeping

Bound ankles/knees

Bound Hog-tied

Bound to pole

Bound to rack

Bound to toilet

Bound using leather straps *, rope, shrink wrap *, tape, pull ties, cloth, irons

Butt play

Caged

Chasity device *

Chemical heat/irritation  

Clothespins – nipple play, ballbag play

Cock mechanical milking machine

Collars – Wide bondage, high posture, dog  

Collar worn in public

Corsets

Cuffs – leather *

Cuffs – metal

Dildos – anal/ oral * 

Ear plugs/ear buds/sound deprivation *

Electricity - Internal (bullet or probe) *

Electricity – Eros Tek/TENS unit *

Electricity - Violet Wand

Enemas - for cleansing

Enemas - retention/training

Fantasy gang rape

Fantasy rape play

Fellatio

Following orders

Forced anal penetration follow by oral insertion (uncleaned rotation)  

Forced homosexuality (sexually)  

Forced masturbation *

Forced nudity *

Forced cold showers while bound

Forced servitude *

Hairbrush Spankings

Handcuffs

Harnessing - leather 

Harnessing – rope

Humbler

Hoods (full head) *

Hung ‘out to dry’ (like laundry) after shower or hose spray 

Gags – bit

Gags – cloth or sponge  

Gags – inflatable

Gags – phallic *

Gags – ring *

Gags - rubber ball *

Gags – tape

Genital sex (a la vache/doggie style)

Glory hole servitude (with protected sex)

Golden showers (urinate on) [must following limits listed in Appendix 1]

Ice play/Ice cubes (body, nipples, inserted) *

Leather restraints *

Manacles & Irons

Massage – giving (hands tied, but functionable)

Massage – receiving *

Masturbation – mechanical * or hand *

Milking (continued masturbation/vibration after ejaculation while tightly bound) *

Mummification - shrink wrap *

Mummification - tape

Nipple clamps *

Nipple Play - Pulls, Tugs, Twists

Nipple suction cups

Nipple weights

Orgasm control

Orgasm denial *

Outdoor scenes *

Paddling

Pain – mild *

Pain – moderate

Pegging

Penis bondage

Penis electro play

Penis whipping

Penis torture – mild

Photography of Sub (see rules, cannot be shared, Sub cannot be identifiable)

Riding crops *

Riding the horse (crotch torture) *

Rope bondage *

Rubber/latex clothing (wearing)

Sensory deprivation *

Sex toy use *

Sexual deprivation

Shared while bound (Sub sexually used by Dominant and visiting friends/guests)  

Shaving/cutting genital hair /Hot waxing - hair removal

Sling bondage and sex  

Sound training of urethra  

Spanking – hand *

Spanking – leather slappers  

Spanking - wooden paddles *

Speculums

Spreader Bars *

Stocks (head & hands and/or feet)

Straight jackets

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)

Steel anal hook (good addition to hog-tie, connect to collar)

Suspension – inverted

Suspension – horizontal

Suspension – upright (feet on ground or tip toes) *

Swallowing Subs own semen  

Swallowing Subs own urine

Swallowing semen of Dominant or guests [if participants are clean health risk as defined]

Swallowing urine of Dominant or guests [if participants are clean health risk as defined]

Thumb cuffs (metal)

Vibrator – anal *

Vibrator - egg/internal *

Vibrator – genital *

Videotaped Scenes – watching (on-line porn - gay, M/F, BDSM)

Videotape Recording (see rules, cannot be shared, Sub cannot be identifiable)

Voyeurism (while bound)

Water Torture

Waterboarding  

Wartenberg Pinwheel *

Whipping - cat of 9

Whipping – flogger *

Whipping - single tail

Whipping – general *

Note:  The Submissive’s general attitude about receiving pain is that the feeling should remain at a pain/pleasure level.  (Using a scale for how much pain does the submissive wants to receive, where 1 is none and 5 is severe: 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5, the sub wishes to explore the 2-3 levels, aka mild to low-moderate)

Activities NOT acceptable and/or desired by the Submissive during the term, aka HARD LIMITS, listed alphabetically.

Biting

Branding

Burning

Causing internal bleeding

Castration/sterilization

Cutting - Blood play

Drastic loss of circulation

Drugs

Fire play

Fisting – anal

Homage with tongue/licking [HIV health reasons]

Injections

Knife play (no blood)

Kissing where Dom, Sub or guest is not 100% disease free/undetectable)

Loss of Consciousness

Nipple Piercing

Pain – severe

Pearl shower (cum on face [if participants are health risk as defined])

Permanent ink markers on skin – text or art

Piercing (perm)

Piercing (temp)

Rimming – receiving [if participants are health risk as defined]

Rimming – giving [if participants are health risk as defined]

Scarification (cutting, making scars)

Scat (brown showers)

Scratching – receiving

Scratching – giving

Sexual interactions with females

Swallowing semen of Dominant or guests [if participants are health risk as defined]

Swallowing urine of Dominant or guests [if participants are health risk as defined]

Tattooing

Activities not of interest to the Submissive, listed alphabetically.

Should the Dominant or invited guests have an interest in any of the items on this list, the Submissive accepts moving them to the Soft Limits list without Submissive’s agreement or complaint as he is here to serve his Dominant in all ways and keep him happy, amused, pleasured, and sexually gratified.

Ball spanking

Ball torture – moderate

Breath play while bound (with close supervision)

Cock worship

Contract slave

Cross dressing

Daily diary

Diapers (unless needed due to long term bondage)

Dunking

Erotic dancing

Examinations – medical chair style

Exhibitionism (before friends)

Exhibitionism (before strangers)

Eye contact restrictions

Face slapping

Finger Claws

Foot worship

Forced dressing

Forced feminization

Harems (serving with other subs)

Hair pulling

High heel wearing

High heel worship

Hot wax - dripping on body/genitals

Human puppy-dog play

Humiliation in private

Humiliation in public

Hypnotism

Infantilism (baby play)

Initiation rites

Gor Slave Training (positions)

Interrogations

Kidnapping

Kneeling

Kissing (when Dom, Sub & guests are 100% disease free)

Lavatory attendant (piss only)

Leather (wearing)

Lecturing for misbehaviors

Lingerie (wearing) 

Manicures – receiving

Mantra and meditation

Medical scenes

Modeling for erotic photos

Name change

Real/simulated neck hanging using elevated platform

Pedicures & Foot massages (giving)

Pedicures & Foot massages (rec'vng)

Peg chair sitting (pointed pegs)

Penis torture – moderate

Personality modification

Phone sex

Pony play

Public nudity and/or visible bondage

Public servicing

Prison scenes

Prostitution, real or fantasy

Rituals

Rimming – receiving [only if participants are 0% health risk as defined]

Rimming – giving [only if participants are 0% health risk as defined]

Religious scenes

Roleplaying

Role reversal

Rope Bondage - Intricate (Japanese)

Serving as a maid or ashtray

Serving as furniture

Serving as art

Sleep deprivation

Slutty clothing

Spandex clothing

Speech Restrictions, what and when

Standing in corner (punishment)

Strapping (full body beating)

Suction Cups

Switching roles (Top/bottom)

Teasing

Tickling

Toilet dunking

Gloves

Verbal humiliation

Wearing symbolic jewelry

Weight control

Wrestling

Sir Michael spent considerable time discussing the clauses that allowed guests to engage with the Submissive. He was concerned that if he elected to bring others to play that they would be hesitant to touch someone they didn’t know who was bound, sightless and/or sound deprived and could later claim rape or assault. He was proud of the verbiage that unequivocally grants the guests signed permission from the bound, sightless, and sound deprived submissive to interact sexually or abusively with the submissive. I agreed to the clauses as presented; excited, but anxious. This would be all new to me if it indeed happens. I had limited sexual experiences as a young man and had never been with anyone else since I was married.

Sir Michael also discussed pain limits, safe words, any new limits I may have, and any special requests without indicating anything he had planned for me. When he was satisfied that I understood the terms, he handed me a pen and simply said “sign”.

And then the eight days of contracted servitude began in earnest.